Any one watch Marriage at First Sight on Channel 4? Phil and I sat down rather zombified last night needing some chewing gum for the eyes and this came on and we got a totally engrossed. It sparked a good in depth conversation,something we rarely partake in these days as we are so god damn tired.
What makes a relationship work and how do you know 'it's the one'. We both agreed we probably wouldn't be scientifically matched together, we are at times polar opposites of each other but I know he is my match, my soul mate, my one or whatever other label you want to give it.
I think in hindsight I knew on our first date that I had a future with Phil. We met at a party, I was carrying around a heavy heart after a break up and he made me laugh, he was light and fun. I went home and told my mum I met a nice guy and I thought about him a lot. A few months later we went on our first date which I remember as clearly as if it was yesterday and not 8 years ago. I was late, he was nervously sipping a Guiness in the Spainard, he bumped his head off the beams and we laughed. We devoured all 3 courses in No.27 Talbot Street and drank 2 botltles of wine and not wanting the night to end we had a tipple in the Duke of York before doing the unspeakable and staying over at his on the first date!In the morning he made me a bacon butty and introduced me to Ray La Montagne, even now my heart dances at that memory.
I was young and naive and Phil was stubborn we hit a stumbling block and couldn't get around it and we parted ways. For 5 months I dated other boys, partied and acted carefree but I always had an ache for Phil. We rekindled in July, we were clear with what we wanted. I moved in that October and we were engaged the following April. My commitment to Phil has never again faltered, I have a deep understanding that this is right. I don't want to paint a picture of perfection, we squabble, I nag, we take each other for granted. Sometimes I'm not sure I'm on the right path but I am positive I am on it with the right person.
I'm really keen to hear how you knew? What was that spark that made you realize this is the one?
